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Why I’m “Anti-Family”

privileged-person:

One: You’re stuck. Born or adopted into a family, you (the child) are not allowed to leave. Even if you don’t get along with your parents or your siblings. Even if your parents are siblings are abusive. ("But child abuse is illegal!" lol okay) Even if you just want a little vacation time.

Two: Coercive power. Parents are expected to control children. Not only that, but they’re allowed to do so, at their own convenience.

The parent-child relationship […] is supposed to be a command/obey dynamic: the parent makes commands, the youth is obligated to obey them. But obedience is not enough. The youth is supposed to show that they’re eager to comply and grateful for the supervision. Resentment, rolling eyes, sighing, back-talk, and being slow to obey—are seen as insubordination, an attack on the parent’s right to command.

To empower parents, adult society has granted authority to use violence (“discipline”)—acts that would be considered “assault” if done to another adult. Most parents seldom need to use this power, though. Having established that they *can* inflict pain, intimidation keeps the youth in line. Youth remain trapped under this lingering threat by dependence on the parents for shelter, food, clothing, money, and transport. (Svenn Bonnischen, "Adult Supremacism")

Three: Mandatory love. Did you tell you mom you loved her this mother’s day? (Honestly if you can’t see why it’s fucking gross that children must love their parents, stay away from me.)

Four: All of this contributes to and encourages the dehumanization of children.

also see, my own adult privilege checklist (which focuses specifically on power dynamics) and a common rebuttal/concern with letting go of parental power

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theblogchoseme:

truelladeville:

I wanna see pictures of your lowest moment from 2013 go

I was in a Toy Story play.

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And I loved it.

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dobdob:

commandertano:

  1. Disney didn’t kill the EU.
  2. The EU hasn’t died unless you and everyone else let it die.
  3. Lucasfilm made the decision to create new stories.

Get to know these facts.

I spent a good minute staring at this trying to work out how Disney could possibly kill the European Union.

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roachpatrol:

jetgreguar:

allrightcallmefred:

fredscience:

The Doorway Effect: Why your brain won’t let you remember what you were doing before you came in here

I work in a lab, and the way our lab is set up, there are two adjacent rooms, connected by both an outer hallway and an inner doorway. I do most of my work on one side, but every time I walk over to the other side to grab a reagent or a box of tips, I completely forget what I was after. This leads to a lot of me standing with one hand on the freezer door and grumbling, “What the hell was I doing?” It got to where all I had to say was “Every damn time” and my labmate would laugh. Finally, when I explained to our new labmate why I was standing next to his bench with a glazed look in my eyes, he was able to shed some light. “Oh, yeah, that’s a well-documented phenomenon,” he said. “Doorways wipe your memory.”

Being the gung-ho new science blogger that I am, I decided to investigate. And it’s true! Well, doorways don’t literally wipe your memory. But they do encourage your brain to dump whatever it was working on before and get ready to do something new. In one study, participants played a video game in which they had to carry an object either across a room or into a new room. Then they were given a quiz. Participants who passed through a doorway had more trouble remembering what they were doing. It didn’t matter if the video game display was made smaller and less immersive, or if the participants performed the same task in an actual room—the results were similar. Returning to the room where they had begun the task didn’t help: even context didn’t serve to jog folks’ memories.

The researchers wrote that their results are consistent with what they call an “event model” of memory. They say the brain keeps some information ready to go at all times, but it can’t hold on to everything. So it takes advantage of what the researchers called an “event boundary,” like a doorway into a new room, to dump the old info and start over. Apparently my brain doesn’t care that my timer has seconds to go—if I have to go into the other room, I’m doing something new, and can’t remember that my previous task was antibody, idiot, you needed antibody.

Read more at Scientific American, or the original study.

I finally learned why I completely space when I cross to the other side of the lab, and that I’m apparently not alone.

this is actually kind of great and it’s nice to know there’s something behind that constant spacing out whenever i enter a different place

FINALLY AN EXPLANATION

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courtnog:

okay so if harry potter was born in 1980, and went to hogwarts in like 91, that means he was in his sixth year in 1996
do you think he knew about the spice girls? i mean.. i know he had shit going on with horcruxes that year but wannabe isn’t something that happens without you taking note of it

#hp
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carry-on-my-wayward-butt:

""but that book character has blue/grey/light eyes so obviously they’re white!!"" ://///

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nutsacklemore:

is this how twilight was written

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deathpup:

first rule of fight club

  1. no fightin!…shakira shakiraaa